Meet Nancy, my self proclaimed second mother - she said I had enough attitude and appetite to… https://t.co/rxkXyLqvAU
On Thursday, an ESPN producer interviewed me about possibly being a feature story on their E:60 program - their version of 60 Minutes.
Our talk left me hopeful but I really got excited when he asked for as many story links and pictures as I could send and I was able to present this: a map of all the places where I have been or been contacted from.
Now, with 50 states and almost as many countries ticked off - this map is more than just a “Hug-and-tell” prop for me- it’s a testament to what an idea, some will, a dash of sticktoitiveness, a decent smile, a bunch of good friends and a lot of maturing can lead to.
But let’s be real, as many I encounter are quick to point out, I am not dealing with the real struggles that others in the world are dealing with like divorce, depression, anger, custody issues, addiction and so on. “You’re just a goofy dude out there hugging people.” - I actually heard that this summer:) And, they’re right but that doesn’t mean that the very things that I’ve relied on to get me around the world and back throughout the last 16 years aren’t the same elements that can’t help you endure.
So forget my picture and look back through your own “map” of your last year or decade or two and be inspired by strides that you have taken and marvel at what you have survived and then be motivated to thrive to even greater heights tomorrow, next year, next decade.
I know I am.
Hugs and High5s everyone
At the outset of this post, I have to apologize for the delay because during any other year, my “Wish Fish” email would’ve already been sent out- but this year was unlike any other.
2017 has been a magical year where almost everything I did broke right and as I ponder ‘why’ and ‘how’ that magic happened - I keep coming back to the “Wish Fish.” For me, my Wish Fish has been more than a simple exercise in writing my desires down and then running into the cold ass ocean on New Year’s morning -It’s been a focusing agent for my desires that has me mentally drilling down on them and the jotting down the connective steps that I can take to make my dreams come true. Those dream building steps - and how soon can I get out of the cold ocean - are all that I am breathlessly thinking as the sun rises on a new year.
So you know the drill - * Print this Wish Fish and cut it out
* Write your wishes on the back and BE SPECIFIC - need I remind you of the year that I simply wished for “more money” and made $1 more than the previous year:) * Mail the Wish Fish to me in a envelope with no return address - anonymity helps wish fish swim fast and true:) * I will release the fish into the Atlantic on January 1 * Have a wonderful year * Hug yourself for me because I COULD NOT HAVE ACHIEVED WITHOUT YOU
And don’t worry if you can’t get the fish to me in time - I always have one fish with all of my special friend’s names written down on it
Hugs and High5’s
C/O The Union League Fitness Department
140 S Broad St
Philadelphia, PA 19102
Q: What did the 5 fingers say to the face?
Having fun with a VERY DIFFERENT type of high5:)
Just caught up with Mike, Tess & their newborn Zelda, - catching up was special because I married them 7 years ago- so special I thought I’d share my wedding speech:
When Mike and Tess asked me to be the officiant all I could do was be humbled by the honor and say, “wow’ again and again. “Wait, why’d they ask me?” I'm single. I know about travel, lifting heavy things, cursing a lot & very unglamorous stuff -not love
I then listed what I felt one needed most: food, shelter and personal will came to mind- not love.
I was gonna back out, thinking I wasn’t the man for the job, but thought about love a bit more and then -a sort of revelation overcame me because: love has ability to heighten everything.
Eating with someone you love can turn a bad meal into a laughable memory.
Hell, love can even cure hunger: I know I’ve said, “I was hungry but you look so good all I wanna do is eat is you”
Love can take you beyond limits you didn't think possible and make it seem.....effortless.
Love can shelter your being from depression and bad times & even shelter you from yourself.
The more I thought -the more I saw -the more I saw -the more I felt how transformative love can be.
Look at how love transformed this rainy night into this beautiful evening we have now.
How lucky you are to have found love.
How lucky are we to be allowed to share in your love.
How lucky indeed.
But luck doesn’t really exist: in life, we make our own luck.
So we have to fight to keep love in our hearts.
Just as we don’t take feeding/sheltering ourselves for granted we cant take love for granted
We have to value love's ability to nourish us when we only clamored to be fed, shelter us where we are exposed and shore us up where we are weak.
We have to fight for love in order for love to continue on.
So while we bask in their love’s glow - let us celebrate love’s transformative power by pledging to walk from here fighting for it.
Because in the end - life comes down to mere moments and what we did with them and after thinking about love- i want a lot more loving moments and fighting for love moments than anything else.
That said, let's get married!
Mira, the 10 year old daughter of a dear friend, has to fill out a worksheet on Jewish heroes for Hebrew school and the last question was: Have You Ever Met a Real Hero?
She wrote “Big Dave"
Even I want to to have some wisecrack response to this but I can’t because I haven’t seen Mira since she was maybe 7 or so and then only saw her for a little while on my tour when Hi hugged her and the whole family
Kids do say the darndest things but sometimes from their open minds sprouts some of the most touching things.
Thank you for thinking of me Mira - it means more than you realize.
And thank you Rachel, Peter and Nate for being such a cool part of my life.
Coffee shop talks with random good people @maggiecerc !
Wish her luck moving to NYC
Meet Nancy, my self proclaimed second mother - she said I had enough attitude and appetite to keep at least 2 mothers working around the clock:) I’ve known her and her husband Dennis her through 4 cars, 3 dogs, 1 cat, 2 houses and COUNTLESS FANTASTIC MEALS....her secret is that she puts a big spoonful of love in every dish.
I haven’t seen her a lot since she moved away to NC so it was especially good to see and hug her today as she visited Philly. Love and miss you Nancy.